I like to follow other female bloggers.
I don’t follow many but have my faves. Garance Dore, Marie Denee and Beth Djalali are a few of the ladies I follow. As a South African I try to follow fellow Saffas, but I’ve not found anyone I’d go to bat for.
This blog/rant will outline why these three ladies have my heart, and blog loyalty.
Misogynists turn away now!
No, I’m not gay/ lesbian/a dyke. How these words are insults I don’t exactly know, but there ya go!💁🏽
I just like supporting the underdog. Like it or not, that’s exactly what we (women) are.
When countries like Iceland become the norm ( equal pay for women was just guaranteed there) and not the exception, when women all over the world have full control over their reproductive rights and their bodies and when male priviledge is no longer a real thing in the workplace, then we can consider ourselves on the right path.
Of course there are numerous other examples I could list, but I’m not going to expound on the various ways women are getting screwed by men. Instead I’m going to take a swipe at other women.
Specifically other women bloggers. 👩🏽💻
Because, you see, not all female bloggers support women. IMHO, they should, because women make up the majority of their readership and following. But women can be bigger douches to other women than men.
Here’s how to spot a faker when you see one:
1. Her blog features loads of fashion pics wearing tight AF dresses.👗
Not only does she not show awareness of how she’s perpetuating the myth that THAT’s all women should do, but she lacks the self awareness to do much other than smile vapidly at the camera.
Rape culture doesn’t form a part of her narrative. Challenging stereotypes is not addressed. As long as she’s …dressed. 😕
2. She shamelessly self promotes.
She’s all about the hustle. In fact, the hashtags #hustle #slay #queen are most likely found in her posts on IG.
HER career. HER achievements. HER, her, her.
The opportunity to do the same for other businesswomen or women in general just slips right over her pretty little noggin. 😢
She plugs beauty creams. She uses fancy hair thingies. She makes YouTube vids featuring luxury cars from brands that don’t give AF about women and the struggles they go through.
But hey, as long as she gets paid, right? It’s ALL about the chi-ching, innit?😒
4. She’s well off. Or her family is.
She’s educated( lawyer, doctor, accountant,etc.). She drives a fancy car, lives in a nice neighborhood in a nice house.
And she’s invariably under 35. Her outfits are designer or good knock offs. But like good -good…so good you can’t tell.
How is all this possible? Daddy’s money. 😌
She doesn’t use that privilege she’s known all her life to better the situation of others. She wouldn’t know where to start. Is a rare bird indeed who can come from all that and recognize and want to better the lives of other women around them.
She’s not rare at all, she’s as common as a street pigeon.
5. She’s a poser.
Left foot forward, hip out, lips pursed provocatively, make up perfect and looking good.
She’s on every red carpet from the Mercedes Benz Fashion Week to the launch of a cream cheese.
She isn’t on women’s issues. She isn’t on advocating for women’s rights or drawing attention to women’s charities or causes.
What she IS doing is perpetuating the myth of women as pretty, vacuous objects of desire.
Her readers don’t know any better.
Until recently I was one of them.
Then I realized that every time she opened her mouth or took to her blog, she didn’t add anything to anyone other than herself. She didn’t care for anything other than the latest, greatest whatever. And I deserve better.
Now someone is going to say I’m hating on her. Far from it.
I’m the wakeup call. Because “once you know better you do better” , right?
Uhm, (💭 thinking hard for another meaningless platitude) “admitting you have a problem is the first step”, riiight?
I hope so.
Until next I blog,
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